Photo of the day: #25 “Cayden is 1”

Cayden 1-25-11

At 6:09 pm today my baby will turn 1.  I know I’ve said it before but January 25th, 2011 was one of the most amazing days ever.  My dream came true of being able to give birth to her the normal way and not through a cut in my stomach in the operating room.  I will forever be grateful to my midwife and doctor, whose main goals are to empower women and support their decision in how they want to give birth.  I got lucky – I only had to push for about 5 minutes and didn’t have any complications.  I felt better 10 minutes after I had her than I did in the weeks before she was born (no pain, no soreness, nothing).  I’m just so glad everything worked out so wonderfully.  I think the reason that day was so wonderful was because not only was my daughter born, but a new me was born.  That day I learned to trust my body and my instincts and that has helped me to be more confident and brave ever since then.

The first half of the year really dragged by – adjusting to life with a newborn who was colicky, dealing with her being sick, and just adjusting to life with 3 kids (which, in my opinion, is so much more complicated than going from 1 to 2).  My two kids were even older – I don’t see how people do it with 3 all close in age.  The last half of her year has absolutely flown by.  She’s learned so much lately and changes every day.  She knows what you say to her even though she can’t talk yet.  She’s so sweet and loves to give hugs and kisses.  She has completed our family!

I found this quote after I wrote my post and thought it is so fitting:  “Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers–strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.” ~ Barbara Katz Rothman

Cayden 1-25-12

Here is a video that I made for Cayden’s birthday:

5 thoughts on “Photo of the day: #25 “Cayden is 1”

  1. Happy Birthday Cayden (again) 😀

    Thanks for sharing that story about her birth – since I have yet to experience it, it was interesting for me to hear it be explained as means of learning to trust your own body – I never heard that before, but now that you said it, it sound really true 🙂

    1. Thank you! It was really a wonderful experience…too wonderful for words. With my first it was an emergency c-section and with the second my doctor pushed me to have a repeat c-section. With my third I was determined to have her naturally because I really wanted to experience it. It may sound weird but in a sense I didn’t feel like a “real” woman until I had Cayden. It’s like childbirth was a rite of passage into womanhood or something to me. I know that the way the baby gets here isn’t as important as having a healthy baby, but to someone that didn’t have the birth they want can be devastating to them. To some it just doesn’t matter how the baby gets here, but I just wanted a chance to do what I felt was right and not be “told” what I was going to do with “my” body and birth. I knew my body could do it and I just had to trust it – and it worked! I felt like a failure the past two births so it was great that everything worked out. It was just so awesome. I’ll stop now, I’m sure that’s more than you wanted to know…I could write for days about that day, though!

  2. She was a beautiful newborn, and is just as gorgeous now that she’s growing up! Happy birthday Cayden!
    I’m glad you got to have a VBAC with her too, if that was important to you. I had four vaginal births (with varying levels of drugs/ pain relief) and natural birth can really be the most amazing experience.

    1. Thank you! Yes, a VBAC was so important to me. It was hard finding a doctor who would let me try, after two c-sections. But I finally found one and they were so awesome. With Cayden, I was in labor for about 26 hours but only had an epidural for the last 1 1/2 hours, and even then it didn’t really work on one side. It was pretty intense but so worth it…and so much better than a c-section. You are right; it was an amazing experience!

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